As the year ends, I once again, felt the urge to write down my thoughts after reflecting on 2015. While many people have resolutions to lose weight, become healthier, make more money, etc., my resolutions this year are much different.
Over the past 5 years now I have spent all my extra time, energy, and emotion building this crazy business. Looking back, I am thankful for the hard work I had to put in to get Filly Flair where it is today. However, I can’t help but think about the relationships I may have left drift off during those 5 years. No doubt Filly Flair wouldn’t be where it is today without the personal investment but there was also a lot of sacrifice to get to this point. The first year of my marriage, I worked another full time job while trying to build Filly Flair. I spent almost every night of our first winter together working at my store until 9-10 pm. I put some of my best friends on the back burner to put in extra hours on the weekends. I’m not saying I regret the time I had to put in, (I’m thankful for the understanding of a newly married man that loved me enough to support my craziness, and still does) I’m just reflecting and realizing that 5 years goes by in the blink of an eye. I started this business in my basement, single and passing up nights on the town with friends, to ship out orders. Going into our 6th year of business I am married, have a 1 1/2 year old with our second due in less than 12 weeks, a 7000 sq foot warehouse, our first flagship store and 30 employees. Life FLIES by.
This fall, my dad, (a hard working farmer) was having some back pain. He finally went into the hospital where 3 tumors on his spine were discovered. Over the course of 6 days we not only learned that he had multiple myeloma cancer, but the tumors grew so fast that before doctors could operate on them they ended up doing enough damage to his spinal cord to paralyze him from the ribs down. Talk about a tough 6 days. We were just going into harvest time and I leaped at the chance to help in anyway I could back at the farm I grew up on. What really struck me was the outpouring of the community. We had so many people bring meals, help with cattle and work (and I mean real, sweat equity work). My dad also had severe kidney failure while in the hospital and there were a few days we really did not think he would ever be coming home. After 9.5 weeks my dad finally returned home. Ramps were built and the house was modified. He is currently undergoing chemotherapy and will have a bone marrow transplant in April. We do not know if he will ever walk again.
It started a new season for my family and I am thankful that during this time we also found out that God was blessing us with the miracle of new life. A baby boy to bring new joy, hope, and something to be excited about during a very dark time. None of us know the number of days we have here, nor should we live in fear that they will end to soon, but I do think we need to make sure that every day counts. I don’t regret the hard work and dedication it took to build Filly Flair to where it is today, but I do wish I would have taken a little more time for dates with my family and friends, more visits with my mom and dad, and a few more hours on the back of a horse when I was single.
My New Years Resolution isn’t to slow down. In fact I am planning on 2016 being one of the biggest years of my business and personal life thus far. I will never stop working hard, it’s a part of who I am by nature and what makes me thrive. My resolution for 2016 is to find more life balance. It’s spending more time talking to God and being truly present with my family. It’s to love on my husband more, worry less, take more time to visit friends and old neighbors, and making the moments that count, REALLY count.
No matter your resolution, I applaud you. It means you are trying to personally grow. Quite frankly, thats one of the best parts about life: we can change it at any time! We are all aware how fast the days go and if I can offer you any advice, it would be this:
Make sure you are LOVING every second of it. If you’re not; invest some time with God and yourself, figure out why and do something to change it. Life really is too short to not enjoy every moment. We all have something to be thankful for and we all have a purpose for being on this earth. Spend a little extra time this next year loving those dear in your life and LIVING the life you want and have.
To all of our amazing customers, thank you for making year 5 an insane record year at Filly Flair. I am so excited about the our plans for 2016 and cannot wait to let you all be a part of it!
God Bless you all in the new year!
Filly Flair Founder & Owner